Woman in birth denied swearing

banningI read in Norwegian newspapers today that a woman were told to stop swearing while having birth. ‘To lie there and call for the devil will only cause you more pain, and then you deserve a rough birth. But if you like, we can rather turn to someone else and pray to Him together, then this might go well’ the midwife had uttered.

I am a man and can’t imagine how painful a birth is, I’m not sure if I even want to think about it.

But I do understand why women swear, I understand that it won’t help to holler ‘oh darn’ instead – I think women need something powerful to utter, right?

Now this midwife has all rights to say that she doesn’t like swearing, I can fully support that. But the way she did it is unforgivable – she destroyed an event that were supposed to be beautiful. Painful but beautiful. The woman giving birth were scared and didn’t open her mouth again during birth – that is sad.

People in Norway have split opinions on this, most is annoyed by the midwife’s behavior but some are defending the midwife. Christians have later today come out and asked for understanding, that they get sad when people swear. I respect that, but I don’t respect people judging others. If the midwife can’t take some swearing she has the wrong job if you ask me. Do you agree?

What right did that midwife have to judge the woman and scaring her by saying the birth won’t go well if she continues to swear?

The midwife has been reported and hopefully she will lose her job.

Today (March 23 2010) it was finally announced that this midwife has lost her authorization, good riddance I think.

Links to the articles, only in Norwegian though, I tried Google translate but that was a joke :

Tv2.no
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Øyvind Lasse Høysæter

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12 Responses

  1. Grenseløs says:

    Jordmoren burde ha blitt tvunget til å gjenta sekshundre ganger: JEG SKAL ALDRI MER TERRORISERE FØDENDE MØDRE.

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  2. Amazing. I understand being offended by swearing, however, I am more offended by the midwife’s judgment. When going through an event like giving birth, the mother needs all the reassurance and comfort she can be given. I am afraid I would have told the midwife where to go and how to get there!

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  3. Grace says:

    I am a midwife and this midwife should leave her job immediately. How dare she torture this woman with her narrowminded beliefs? I don’t like swearing either but I do it sometimes if I get a bad shock for example. What this so-called midwife did was a lot worse than swearing. She took advantage of a woman’s pain to force her religious views on her and a time when it was her job to support the mother during the pain of giving birth. To then imply that the birth could go badly is a mental abuse that must beg the question-does this midwife suffer from some kind of mental illness. The mother and father should be given compensation and the midwife should be fined and fired. As she also did not follow protokol and fill out the partogram or read the previous birthing history of this woman, it seems to me that she did not do her job anyway. The ordeal this mother and partner have been put through can cause lasting trauma and make any future births into a terribel ordeal. I am shocked by this midwife and it beggers belief that she is still allowed to work. Shame on the health sector!

  4. Marie says:

    Jeg er troende selv, og har födt fire av mine barn på et sjukehus som er tjukt av frikirkefolk.
    Jeg har verken hört eller lest om noe lignenede.
    Maken til uprofesjonell oppförsel!
    Dessverre sper det bare på mytene om kristne.
    ‘Alle’ kommer til å huske denne ene, mens ingen vet om de tusenvis av profesjonelle kristne jordmödre som finns på våre födeavdelninger.

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  5. Lyndi says:

    As a mother I can tell you that if this had happened to me at the time of giving birth, I would not only have continued swearing, I would have grabbed that midwife and throttled the daylights out of her. A person like that should be banned from doing any work that entails interacting with others.

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  6. I says:

    Fy søren, har aldri hørt noe så tilbakestående i mitt liv. Under en fødsel kan en kvinne banne så mye hun trenger! Finnes ikke noen regler på sånt. Hun kan også kreve alt annet hun måtte behøve synes jeg. Er du SÅ troende jobber du enten i kirken eller så holder du kjeft.
    Makan…

  7. stine magdalena says:

    helt enig!!!dette er det mest tåpelige jeg har hørt på lenge!!!!jeg fødte selv for 8mnd siden og da var det både fan og helvete!!!!med slike smerter så vet man jo nesten ikke ha som kommer ut av sin egen munn!!!hadde jeg ligget der med veer sammens med den jordmora,da hadde hun jaggu fått seg en strak høyre!

  8. hi Øyvind,
    Crazy story. I would let a woman giving birth say anything she wants!
    Your post reminds me about another story on a Norwegian swearing… actually, it was Santa, and he didn’t swear, but somebody thought he did.
    If you don’t mind, the link to the story is:
    http://news.trend.az/index.shtml?show=news&newsid=1370508&lang=EN
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  9. Hanne says:

    Hele saken er helt absurd etter min mening. Jeg har født og jeg kan si at man gjør en mengde urasjonelle ting som man vanligvis ikke gjør i sin “urtilstand”. Mine greier var å skremme vannet av en barnepleier jeg aldri så igjen og forsøk på å sparke jordmoren i kampens hete. Det hører med til historien at jeg ba om unnskyldning etterpå 🙂 Vel, konklusjonen må være at den fødende har alltid rett – uansett jordmor.

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  10. Ugly American says:

    You know people of Norwegian descent that live in the US midwest are dumbest critters you’ll ever meet; BUT you Norwegians living in Norway are smarter, almost normal-like. You know why that is? I think Norwegians get lots of good Omega 3 fatty acids and DHEA from all that north sea fish y’all eat. But dumb-son-of-bitches american midwestern cousins don’t get any and they is DUMB! Watch the movie ‘Fargo’ and Y’all understand what I’m talking about. BTW whos cares about the stupid devil worshipping womans thats wants to swears when havings hers baby.

  11. eva says:

    Folksomt med amerikanere her inne? Må være ny rekord…

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